Random Musings

Let’s start by defining Nice-ism first – Being polite, kind and respectful towards others and behaving cordially are various facets of being nice to fellow living creatures. Nice-ism as a philosophy is the backbone of all religions and spiritual endeavors and probably the first lesson imparted by a mother to her children in most societies. By all logical means, this should mean that a majority of the human population would be nice but practically speaking, this isn’t true. And no the façade of appearing nice doesn’t count as the real thing – Indians seem to be masters at that! However, I don’t want to explore whether people are nice or not. I just want to delve deeper into the consequences of being nice. Let’s put it straight - I have concluded that nice-ism is a weakness these days. Even when I am a proponent of positive thinking and have tried my best to find reasons to believe otherwise but experience and observation have a different story to tell. Also, maybe my observations ...

It’s a tricky headline, right! Counter-intuitive maybe as common sense says bad intentions mostly lead to ugly consequences but even good intentions cause a lot of havoc in our daily lives, everyday and everywhere around us. Let’s go a little deeper. Don’t you observe ‘good’ people trying to do the best for others – shielding them from sadness, pain, disappointment etc. etc. by hiding things from them which ends up messing things up even more? Every day I see a lot of actions born out of positive deep-seated feelings causing immense pain to those around. The pain is simply delayed and in majority of the cases, multiplied by a factor of 10. Why does this happen so frequently? Despite the best of intentions, why do people end up fucking things up? Is it because we are too optimistic about the consequences of our actions? Everything Will Get Fine syndrome we are caught in Is it the over-confidence on our own abilities to make things right?           ...